10 Reasons NOT to Be a Youth Pastor

Reasons NOT to be a Youth PastorThere are tons of reasons to be a Youth Pastor.  There are also, hundreds of things to love about Youth Ministry.

As I meet and talk with Youth Pastors or those wanting to go into Youth Ministry I often find that many are pursuing Youth Ministry for the wrong reasons.  So, inspired by such conversations, here are ten reasons NOT to be a Youth Pastor:

1. You REALLY like dodgeball

Don’t we all.  However, at the end of the day, Youth Ministry is really not really about the games we play.

Sure there are moments of fun, and there is a need for these games at times.  If however, you are depending on the fun and games to keep you in ministry, you will be sadly mistaken.

2. You think it will be EASY

We only wish it would be easy.  Everyday brings its own challenges.  Rarely is Youth Ministry what it seems.

If we really knew what this would be like, none of us would have agreed to this.  Don’t get me wrong, it is wonderful.  It is rewarding.  There are so many moments of joy.  They do not however come without their moments of heartbreak, burden, and pain.

3.  You want to be a “Real Pastor” someday

Youth Ministry isn’t a stepping stone to the BIG job.  Sure some who serve in Youth Ministry will be called later to the role of Senior Pastor/Lead Pastor.  That doesn’t however make Youth Ministry the intern position for a “REAL Pastor.”

If you are a Youth Pastor…you are a REAL Pastor.  Don’t let any little old lady tell you anything otherwise after you preach or teach in “big church.”

4. You think parents are idiots and you can do better

If this is you, wait until you’re a parent, then you’ll change your mind.  Parents are trying to do their best.  There is no manual given when you take your child home from the hospital.

Every parent is making it up as they go (just like you are with your Youth Ministry most likely) hoping they don’t screw their kid up.  Come alongside, partner, encourage, and pray for the parents in our ministry.

5. You just want to hang out with teens all the time

Can you say creeper?  Make friends you own age…please.

6. You want access to a lot of babysitters

Okay, this one I kinda get.  Good babysitters are hard to find.  Date nights are few and far between in ministry.

However, students in your house without you….hmmm…probably not as appealing as it first sounds.  There is nothing wrong with youth babysitting.  It’s just a terrible reason to decide to be a Youth Pastor.

7. You love lock-ins

Wow…really?  I don’t believe you.

8. You don’t think you will do anything all day at work

Yeah, your students don’t either.  If only this were true.

Hey, by the way, what DO you do all day?

9.  You are young and can relate better

When you are young you relate differently.  Different is not always better.  Different gets a lot of Youth Pastors in a lot of trouble.

Again here, there is nothing wrong with being young and being a Youth Pastor.  Surround yourself with older adults who love teens.  Glean from their life experiences of walking with Jesus.

10. You think you’re cool

You may be, but it won’t last forever (well, okay, the middle schoolers will always think you’re cool).  Teens DO NOT need another cool friend.  They need a pastor.

Newsflash: you’re probably not as cool as you think anyway.

Just steer teens toward Jesus.  He is pretty cool.

About the Author
I am a Youth Ministry veteran of twenty four years, and currently serve as the Student Pastor at High Desert Church.  I help equip and encourage Youth Pastors through this blog and podcast The Longer Haul.  My passion is helping Youth Pastors create a ministry of longevity that they truly love.  I am the grateful husband of Sarah and the dad of Emma, Anna, Lizzy, and Jack.  I am a speaker, lover of vintage VW’s, and the owner of one 1972 VW Westfalia Bus.

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